9/5/11

Will A Trial Separation Keep Your Marriage Going Or Should You Get A Divorce?

By Sarah Scott


I am sorry that your present state of your relationship is in shambles. When you made a decision to be married to your partner, you didn't think that your relationship would end up like this. Thinking back to your wedding, the last thing you ever expected to hear out of you or your spouse's mouth is "I want a divorce."

Somewhere along the road, your relationship shifted. You both grew more and more apart. You guys argued more often. The romance decreased to a point where now it's non-existent. You have no idea how this happened to your relationship and you had such high hopes it would last. Now you would like a divorce.

Before choosing on getting a divorce, ask yourself if there's any hope to improving your marriage. If you need your relationship to be the way in which it was before things between you and your spouse worsened, then consider getting briefly separated rather than a divorce.

You and your partner were happy at one time until stress and negative emotions stacked up. In a trial marriage separation, if everybody is willing to commit to reviving the relationship than you both have an opportunity as a couple to make your marriage work. Because of the tough facts of life, we lose touch in cultivating our relationship with our spouse. Marriages is tough work to maintain. Like growing a garden, it needs to have a lot of care. You and your other half began to see each other more as room pals instead of lovers and soon indifference settles in. Your intimacy, communication, passion and everything that makes a relationship thrive vanished.

With help from a marriage therapist, a trial separation can basically keep your marriage alive. In a marriage separation, you and your partner get a chance to reflect and reevaluate what failed in your marriage. You both also get time to cool off and get the space you want to figure out where to go from here.

To keep your marriage going during a trial separation, you will have to set clear rules and goals on what you both desire out of a marriage separation. Make it clear and concise so there's no confusion between you two.

Commit to seeing one another every other week to reconnect and work on your relationship. Space and time alone can change how you see your spouse and help re-ignite the loving and gratifying relationship you each once shared. But there are some couples who use marriage separation as a method to break from the marriage without having to go through divorce. These couples are not committed to making their relationship work and would prefer to live separate lives.

Marriage separation will help you to learn a better method of communicating and relating better with your spouse. Trial separations can either make or break a marriage, it's up to you and your partner on where you go from there.

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