A woman, in the eyes of a man, can be a mysterious, flighty and mercurial creature. She's hard to please. She's impossible to figure out. Landing the woman of your dreams seems like, to many a bachelor, mission impossible.
It isn't all hopeless though. Dating doesn't have to be so rigorous and strained as some people make it out to be. Women aren't so mysterious. Just stick to these guidelines and the first date could end up being the start of something very special.
The first date shouldn't be too formal an affair, however it's usually not just a drink at Starbucks. The rule is generally, a first date consists of a picking up the girl for dinner and perhaps a movie. Two simple factors, the pick up and the reservation are all important. Deviate from that and you may not do too well.
A smart gentleman will have something planned beforehand. You can't just magically whisk a date out of your baseball cap. Make reservations to a nice restaurant or get tickets to a show. It doesn't have to be overly fancy or formal--just have a plan. Women like men with plans.
Don't insult your date by taking her to some gauche and cheap bar or chain restaurant. You want to make your first date special so don't be afraid to spend a little time making plans. Don't be cheap either--that's extremely unattractive especially on a first date.
The confirmation call is vital. Remember to call your date and confirm that you will come pick her up on Friday at 8. Do not keep your lady waiting. This will cause unnecessary fretting and stress. A phone call is really easy to make and it's good manners.
Be on time. Don't keep your date waiting. Being late is simply bad manners. You shouldn't be late to an important meeting or should you be late for a first date. It's bad form and it gets your date off on a rocky start. If something comes up and you will be late, remember to pick up the phone and give your lady a heads up.
Show her you like her. Signal your attraction immediately, don't keep it to yourself. Every girl likes to be flattered. Don't be too profuse. Laying it on too thick will only cause irritation. But do toss out a 'you look good' or 'nice shoes'. It's an easy point to score.
When it comes to paying the check don't try to be egalitarian. A woman likes being treated. Besides that, she has already spent a mini-fortune in her pre-date preparations (the hair, the shoes, the waxing, etc).
If you find that the date isn't so great, be kind yet firm. Say something along the lines of, thanks for coming, it was nice meeting you. Don't say you'll call when you know you won't.
If the date goes well, make sure your date knows you had a good time and set up another date before the night is over. Walk her to her door. Be a gentleman, but take things to the next level if she's willing.
It isn't all hopeless though. Dating doesn't have to be so rigorous and strained as some people make it out to be. Women aren't so mysterious. Just stick to these guidelines and the first date could end up being the start of something very special.
The first date shouldn't be too formal an affair, however it's usually not just a drink at Starbucks. The rule is generally, a first date consists of a picking up the girl for dinner and perhaps a movie. Two simple factors, the pick up and the reservation are all important. Deviate from that and you may not do too well.
A smart gentleman will have something planned beforehand. You can't just magically whisk a date out of your baseball cap. Make reservations to a nice restaurant or get tickets to a show. It doesn't have to be overly fancy or formal--just have a plan. Women like men with plans.
Don't insult your date by taking her to some gauche and cheap bar or chain restaurant. You want to make your first date special so don't be afraid to spend a little time making plans. Don't be cheap either--that's extremely unattractive especially on a first date.
The confirmation call is vital. Remember to call your date and confirm that you will come pick her up on Friday at 8. Do not keep your lady waiting. This will cause unnecessary fretting and stress. A phone call is really easy to make and it's good manners.
Be on time. Don't keep your date waiting. Being late is simply bad manners. You shouldn't be late to an important meeting or should you be late for a first date. It's bad form and it gets your date off on a rocky start. If something comes up and you will be late, remember to pick up the phone and give your lady a heads up.
Show her you like her. Signal your attraction immediately, don't keep it to yourself. Every girl likes to be flattered. Don't be too profuse. Laying it on too thick will only cause irritation. But do toss out a 'you look good' or 'nice shoes'. It's an easy point to score.
When it comes to paying the check don't try to be egalitarian. A woman likes being treated. Besides that, she has already spent a mini-fortune in her pre-date preparations (the hair, the shoes, the waxing, etc).
If you find that the date isn't so great, be kind yet firm. Say something along the lines of, thanks for coming, it was nice meeting you. Don't say you'll call when you know you won't.
If the date goes well, make sure your date knows you had a good time and set up another date before the night is over. Walk her to her door. Be a gentleman, but take things to the next level if she's willing.
About the Author:
Jayde Johanssen understands the turmoil that can happen with men dating. This is why she offers online dating advice for men, to help encourage more successful dating experiences. This article, First Date 101 is released under a creative commons attribution license.
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