Jealousy is commonly found in relationships. But although it is common, controlling jealousy is vital. Facts show that excessive degree of jealousy can kill every relationship, even the most promising one. Why? Because jealousy, when it has overwhelmed the you, can make you into one that always thinks very negatively, one that always puts the worst spin on everything that happens between the two of you.
For example, instead of thinking that his cell phone is out of power when you cannot reach him, you may think that he turned it off intentionally because he is still with another woman. Or, instead of thinking that a traffic jam had made him unable to come home as early as he used to be, you may think that he spent his time with a beautiful girl in a bar.
Indeed, it is not for nothing people call green-eyed monster for jealousy. You have to get a grip of it, tightly, before it becomes detrimental to your life and relationship.
We often see how an overly-jealous person behaves very annoyingly. Without you even aware of it, you can be very harsh and interrogative to your partner if jealousy has overwhelmed your whole being. Just like every other jealous person, you may feel that you have the rights to all do that - even though there is no slightest indication that supports your suspicion. You just feel that your jealousy is right, while in fact it is totally baseless. Before you decide to continue treating your partner as a red-handed thief, read this: behaving like that will only make him create more distance to you. Instead of ensuring your partner's company, you will make him more and more uncomfortable with you, or even feel afraid.
Everyone has his limits. If you don't stop behaving like that, soon enough he will leave you if he feels that it is the only thing he can do free himself from your control and to regain his independence. So, if you find yourself always feel suspicious and jealous even though there is no base for it, then stop a while and reflect. Controlling jealousy needs you to first acknowledge your own problems.
The root of jealousy is always fear. You are jealous because you are afraid. You are afraid of losing your partner's feeling and affection. That's what behind your controlling
For example, instead of thinking that his cell phone is out of power when you cannot reach him, you may think that he turned it off intentionally because he is still with another woman. Or, instead of thinking that a traffic jam had made him unable to come home as early as he used to be, you may think that he spent his time with a beautiful girl in a bar.
Indeed, it is not for nothing people call green-eyed monster for jealousy. You have to get a grip of it, tightly, before it becomes detrimental to your life and relationship.
We often see how an overly-jealous person behaves very annoyingly. Without you even aware of it, you can be very harsh and interrogative to your partner if jealousy has overwhelmed your whole being. Just like every other jealous person, you may feel that you have the rights to all do that - even though there is no slightest indication that supports your suspicion. You just feel that your jealousy is right, while in fact it is totally baseless. Before you decide to continue treating your partner as a red-handed thief, read this: behaving like that will only make him create more distance to you. Instead of ensuring your partner's company, you will make him more and more uncomfortable with you, or even feel afraid.
Everyone has his limits. If you don't stop behaving like that, soon enough he will leave you if he feels that it is the only thing he can do free himself from your control and to regain his independence. So, if you find yourself always feel suspicious and jealous even though there is no base for it, then stop a while and reflect. Controlling jealousy needs you to first acknowledge your own problems.
The root of jealousy is always fear. You are jealous because you are afraid. You are afraid of losing your partner's feeling and affection. That's what behind your controlling
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