4/22/12

Making a Healthy Recipe in a Relationship

By Alex Shant


Once you have decided to enter an official relationship, you both need to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally? What do you admire about his or her personality? This will help not taking the other for granted, which can often happen after two people have been together for a long time. Just like any other things, relationships should have a maintenance to make it last.

You can't just expect to have a relationship of a lifetime if you don't do anything to make it worthwhile. People tend to get lazy after a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be solved when both people are willing to make the time and effort.

Everyone is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so never expect a person to always see things your way. However, it is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish to avoid frequent arguments, look for things like whether or not it is important for the both of you to take a glimpse each other everyday.

While seeing each other on a daily basis seems wonderful and healthy to some people, others may feel smothered and need space to have some alone time. Same with sex, if you're partner is not yet ready to do those acts, don't force him/her.

Patience is one of the main keys to a healthy relationship. There are times when our partner will not respond in a way in which is pleasing to us, but this does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always a bad step to take because it shows your partner that they are not entitled to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you automatically assume the worst of them. Give your partner some time and let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No matter what the situation may be, patience is golden in a relationship.

Honesty is also at the top of everyone's list when it comes to what people want out of a relationship. A person needs to know that they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They need to know that they can at least rely on their loving partner to tell them the truth, no matter what. You or your partner need to know that what they did was wrong and they need to feel the sympathy for what they did. Once you or partner have known this, you can then figure out a way of how you will confess your wrong doings to the other.




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