9/6/11

Should You Be Friends With Your Ex? Up Close and Personal Confessions

By Clay Andrews


Being friends with your ex is an individual decision. Only you can figure out whether you can be friends with an ex or not. For some, being friends with an ex is a sign of maturity. While this can be true, it can be too painful so it is not always a good idea. It is not safe to say which way is right and it is just what it is. There are cases when the breakup was neat and the decision may have been made that you would not be friends. You should honor what the two of you decided and move on in this case.

One of the biggest factors in deciding whether you can be friends with an ex is your personality.

For those who are prone to jealousy, being friends not a good idea. Chances are, when your ex decides to be with someone else, you will be badly jealous.

If an intention of staying broken up and romantic feelings towards each other still exist, being friends is a bad idea.

You might end up getting back together In this case, only to break up again several weeks or months after.

There is nothing wrong having fond memories when you go somewhere the two of you used to go.

You should probably not be friends, however, if these memories turn into thoughts of wanting to hook back up with your ex.

Therefore, how do you find out when you are prepared to be friends with an ex?

Consider first how long it has been since the break up.

You are probably ready if it has been long enough that you wouldn't mind if you ex hooks up with someone else.

If you honestly don't want to be with your ex romantically but you're still wanting friendship, then you're maybe ready to be friends with you ex, then you might be ready. Certain boundaries have to be followed with any relationship that has ended .

Certain topics and actions have to be avoided when you become friends with an ex like walking on a tight rope. Such topics are sex life.

When being friends with an ex, be sensitive and sensible. Consider how you would want to be treated. For a while, it is normally going to be different from all of your other friendships. Talk casually and avoid topics about your love-life.




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1 comment:

Adele said...

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Best,